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For The Spohr's

Standing in the cool breeze of the night,
I send wordless prayers to God.
Wishing the wind could take my love, my prayers, my heart all the way to California.
And wishing that it could bring back some of their heartache, their pain.
Wishing I could help them carry it all.
Knowing I can’t.
Willing to do all that I can,
But there’s nothing left undone.
Dear God, hear my silent prayer..


Today, with all the sadness surrounding little Maddie Sphor’s death, I’ve been amazed at the power of the web.

People all over the world have posted about Maddie today.

Plans are being made to remember Maddie.

People have given money to help with Maddie’s funeral costs.  (If you’d like to give to that, go to paypal.com, click Send Money.  Enter the email address formaddie@hotmomreviews.com and the amount you’d like to give.)

At one point today, Maddie’s March of Dimes fundraiser site was getting an average of one $20 donation every 30 seconds! It’s now reached over $13,000.

Hell, we even got Jimmy Fallon to tweet @mamaspohr (Heather).

All of this made me start to think about the definition of friends.  Dictionary.com defines a friend as “a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard”.  I think it’s obvious from the outpouring today that there are feelings of affection for Maddie, Mike and Heather.

Maggie said it better, but no matter how many people look at me like I’m crazy when I talk about my “bloggy friends” or “Tweeties”…I will no longer apologize for talking about the friends I’ve met online.  I will not let myself feel self-concious for asking you to pray for them.  (I wouldn’t if I was asking for a friend I know in real life!)  These people are real, and they’re real friends.  Just think of Twitter as the watercooler for my stay-at-home job.  But unlike most people, I get to chose my co-workers.  I bet you wish you could do that, huh?  🙂

Wordless Wednesday: Maddie Spohr Edition

Today was supposed to be Wordless Wednesday.  I was supposed to show you a cute picture of my kids.  But this morning I woke up to terrible, horrible, heartbreaking news.  I’m sure every one in the blogosphere knows already, but for those of you who don’t know: Maddie Spohr (the daughter of Heather and Mike Spohr) died yesterday.  I stayed up late, watching for updates on Twitter.  It had been hours since we’d heard anything.  It made me nervous.  But I finally gave in to my drooping eyelids…and now I’m waking up and finding it a little hard to breathe.  My heart is broken for Heather and Mike.  I’m wordless…

A lot of people don’t understand this whole community of bloggers.  I’ve heard this a million times: “How can you be friends with someone you’ve never met?”  or “Why do you even care what somebody in California is doing?”

Well, I’ve never met Heather, Mike or Maddie.  But I know how big and beautiful Maddie’s eyes were.  And how perfect her curls were.  I know that Heather’s birthday is one day before mine and that she loves to take pictures.  She’s sassy and full of energy.  Mike’s funny and laid-back.  These are some of the things I know about them.  And I’m guessing that I’d like them if I did meet them.

And as for caring about what someone in California is doing: I care that they lost their baby girl.  And I care that they are sad and hurting. And  I care that they are going to need people to pray for them.  And I care that they are going to have to go through grief like many of us will never know.

Since Maddie was so premature when she was born, March of Dimes has been very important to the Spohr’s.  Heather and Mike have asked that instead of flowers, please give to Maddie’s March of Dimes “March for Dimes” Team.

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