You know how you have something you want to say, but you don’t say it?
Because you know saying it would just be mean.
And it would hurt someone’s feelings.
And for what?
For no good reason.
Other than you are tired, cranky, worn-out.

At the same time…
I’m a big advocate for “Say what you mean.  Mean what you say.”
“Don’t stuff it in a box, only to have it come up later.”
And most of all “Please don’t be passive-aggressive.
(That benefits no one.)”

But there’s a line.
A line between stuff you can say out loud
And stuff that needs to, should stay in your head.

And while I’m very good at toeing that line,
I’m not very good at noticing it until I’ve already crossed it.

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place,
but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”
— Benjamin Franklin

4 Responses to Unspoken
  1. Monica
    March 4, 2011 | 5:26 pm

    well yes. and you know that good old southern “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” thing. i have to hit replay on that one in my head…often. sometimes my mouth moves before my brain hits that replay button, though. and then…well i go to plan b. apologize profusely. bat eyelashes feverishly. bake brownies deliciously.

  2. domestic extraordinaire
    March 5, 2011 | 4:04 pm

    I so get this. So much.

  3. Donyale
    March 7, 2011 | 10:03 pm

    As I have been guilty of filter failure more than once, I can totally relate to this post…and Benjamin Franklin.

  4. Heather
    March 8, 2011 | 5:53 pm

    No joke! I just posted on FB about passive aggressive. I have had the week from hell and one of my students emailed me a very passive aggressive ditty. I think my head spun backwards as I spit pea soup out of my neck.