A Thousand Words Are Worth A Picture

My big kids are at school and my littlest is babbling quietly in his bed.  Ahhh…the joys of school!

But I have to admit that as I sat down at my computer, I was overwhelmed with the desire to look at our pictures from this summer.  I have said before that July was probably my least inspired month of photography.  It was hot and I didn’t feel good.  But I’m glad that I kept on clicking, but I did get a few pictures that I really, really love.  But one of the things that I didn’t capture was our picnic.

Remember yesterday when I said some of my favorite pictures were the mental ones?  Yeah…I realized that I should write some of those down.  I want to remember it all, but I know I won’t.  So now…I share with you my mental picture of our picnic:

The kids begged all summer for a picnic, but it was just SO BLASTED HOT that I couldn’t make myself sit outside.  So I pulled out one of my winter tricks: we spread out a blanket in the living room and had an indoor picnic while basking in the sunshine coming through the windows.  After our wraps and chips, we watched the clouds through the big arching window and nibbled on strawberry Milano cookies and drank pink lemonade.  Life is sweet!

(And just because all that led me to another mental picture, you get a bonus “picture”.)

Not long after that day, we went to the beach.  On our way to the villa, we stopped to grab a few groceries.  I let each kid pick out their own snack.  Lydia went in search of “the cookies in the paper bag”.   She didn’t even care what kind.  Carter took 10 minutes to choose from the huge Pepperidge Farm selection they had and settled on the basic sugar cookie.

Sometimes I get annoyed with him because he can take forever to make a decision.  But that night we weren’t in a rush and I let him take his time.  Watching him glance back and forth from this package to that, watching the wheels turn in his head…I want to remember that.  Forever.

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Pepperidge Farms sent me free strawberry Milano cookies, which were delightful.  They filled my tummy, but not my brain.  The opinions you see above are completely my own unbiased opinions.

A Day of Firsts

Your first day of Kindergarten.  Your first day of “big school”.  You are so, so ready.  (I am, too!)  We walked into the brand new school and you led the way to your classroom.  You feel safe here already.

How did you get so big?  When did it happen?  I thought I was watching, savoring it all…but sometimes the biggest changes in life are actually just a culmination of gradual little changes.  And somehow in all the watching and waiting, I missed it.  I missed the moment when you became a real “big” kid.

We dropped off your stuff in the classroom and headed to the cafeteria for breakfast.  I showed you how to go through the line.  How to get your napkin, your milk, your tray.  We found you a seat and I realized that you had never seen a milk carton.  After showing you how to open it, we started to walk away.  ”Bye, buddy!  We love you!”  ”Bye!”  And it wasn’t until I reached the door that I heard you running up behind me.  ”I need a straw”, you said with tears brimming in your eyes.  ”Baby they don’t have straws here.  Just drink out of your carton.”   “But I need a straw.”  ”Well, they don’t have straws, babe.”  ”But…but…but…”  You cling to me.  This isn’t really about straws, is it? Walking back to your seat, I show you how to drink milk out of carton and then we really leave.  You wave and although I think I can sense a little hesitation in your goodbye, you mean it this time.

I have to admit that I was a bit caught off guard by having to leave you sitting alone in the lunchroom.  I didn’t expect to leave you without a specific adult being in charge of you.  A lot of other parents stayed until their child(ren) had finished breakfast, but we had to go take Lydia to her school.  I am confident that you figured it out.  I know that there were plenty of adults in there, but it still felt weird.  I hope you figured out what to do with your trash and how to get back to your room.  I can’t wait to hear all about it this afternoon.

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Confident, you chatter away on the way to school.  You tell me and your dad that God is following you to school, but when we ask what you mean, you brush us off.   I can’t help but wonder if it’s true that children are closer to God than adults.  Somehow I feel the answer is yes.

Quiet, but still with a pep in your step, you walk down the hall.  ”I see the ladybug, Mommy!” And we find your name and hang up your bag.  Walking in the door, you squeeze my hand a little tighter and I can feel the anxiety begin.  ”Hey, babe.  Why don’t we go color? Look!  Mrs. H already has crayons out.”  I say a few things that make you giggle, get a kiss and start to head out the door.  And I see the tears beginning to well in your eyes.  Trying so hard not to cry that you can’t even speak…I know, little one.  I know.  I know how it feels.  You come in for one last hug and nestle into that sweet spot just inside my neck and I breathe in your sweet smell and take a mental picture.  For all the pictures that I take, some of my favorite ones are only in my head.


I leave you behind, crying.  I feel a little guilty about it, but I know you will be fine without me.  You are strong.  You are “big”.  And you did, after all, tell me that God was with you.

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Asa is searching for you both.  He keeps wandering down the hall and knocking on your doors.
We’re gonna have a big day, he and I.  And I can’t wait to pick you guys up and find out all about your day.
But first?  I’m gonna take a nap.  :-)

I love you both!
You are my sunshines.

And I do miss you…a little.

Love,
Mommy

At the Hop

I was at BlogHer last year, and I hope to be there next year.  Did you hear that it’s in San Diego?  I’ve always wanted to go to California!

But this year?  I’m joining in Robin’s Annual Blog Hop!   I met Robin at Blissdom this past February.  She waltzed up beside me in a session and introduced herself.  Something magical happens when one Southern blogger meets another.  She pulled my drawl out of hiding and made me feel like an old friend.  That’s her…warm and inviting.  And since I’ve been reading her blog I can add inspirational to that list.  You should definitely go read her archives and add her to your feed reader.  She’s a keeper, I tell ya!

I’m supposed to be telling you about myself though, aren’t I?

  • Well, I am the mom of 3-soon to be 4!  (5 year old boy, 4 year old girl, 1.5 year old boy, and we find out in 8 weeks the gender of #4)
  • My husband is a pediatrician.  He contemplated starting his own blog and did a test run here.  People seemed to like it, but he decided that blogging wasn’t his thing.
  • I love photography and I am in the midst of doing Project 365, although I haven’t updated my flickr stream in a several days.
  • I write about whatever comes to mind…each of my kidsfamilycrafts, self-esteem, old memories, new memoriesfaith, recipes, or just whatever I want to write about.
  • I am a chronic project starter.  That does not mean I am a chronic project finisher.  I would love to be…maybe in oh, say 18 or so years??
  • My favorite spot in my house is my chair in the morning.  For about 30 minutes the sun shines through the big arched window and makes it nearly impossible to see my computer screen or anything else…I take that as a sign that I should stop what I’m doing and enjoy the moment.  Occasionally I drift off to sleep, but usually that’s when I pray.
  • I love my children to death, but could not be a homeschooling mom.  (I’m proud of and impressed by those of you who do!)
  • I can not WAIT for school to start on MONDAY!!!!!!!!!!  Squee!!!!!!!!!!
  • I don’t “Squeeee!!!!!!!” very often.
  • I am sad that I didn’t plan my pregnancy better.  I will be missing Blissdom ‘11 because I will likely have a newborn or be very, very pregnant at that point.
  • I am not a big name blogger.  I do not have a massive following.  And I’m not sure that I want those things.
  • I do have a handful of devoted readers whom I love.
  • I am a horrible commenter.  Sorry.  I want to comment, but I don’t.  I’m trying to be better about that.
  • Today I am going to be a great commenter!

Now, off to blog hop and comment!

Go to your room…until tomorrow!

I said it in a moment of frustration.  Carter wasn’t being bad, just really really annoying.  And I couldn’t handle it.

I considered a timeout for myself, but realized that would probably mean that Captain Destructo would demolish the house.
(I’ve never seen a 20 month old that can destroy as quickly as he can!)

Honestly, it didn’t seem to bother him at first.  I left him in there for a while and heard him singing his heart out.
But then…he heard me call the others for breakfast, and panic began to set in.

“Mommy!  Mooooooommmmmy!  Moooooooooooooooooooooooommmmmmmmmmmmmmeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
*cue tears*

I got the other two settled at the table and walked into his room.
“What Carter?”

“If I’m in my room all day and all night until tomorrow, how will I eat and not die?”
(He’s always been a little dramatic.  I have no clue where he gets that trait.)

“Well, I was thinking I could just slide your food under your door and you could eat in here.”

*long, long pause*

“So the only thing I can have to eat is pancakes?  That’s not very healthy.”

How could I not laugh at that?
So we talked about wise choices and unwise choices.
We talked about things that aren’t bad, but aren’t good either.
And then he joined us for breakfast.

And I felt bad…because I just lectured my child about wise choices when I didn’t make one myself.
(Luckily he hasn’t caught on to this irony yet.)

When We Were Four

When we were four, we learned so much more.  -Lydia Ivey

Dear Lydia,

I can not believe that you are four years old.   There are times that I feel like you should be older.  I tend to lump you and Carter together, expecting you to do anything he can do.  You keep up, that’s for sure!  You are so smart and determined…and that’s a wonderful combination!

In one week you will start Pre-K.  You were supposed to go to a preschool program that was just 4 half days a week, but the opportunity became available for all day, all week school and I took it.  You’re ready.  You’re so very ready.  I know you will do well, but I have to admit that there is small part of me that’s sad.  I was looking forward to lazy afternoon naps with you.  We’ll still nap on Sunday’s I’m sure!  You are my cuddle bug, and there are few things more wonderful than naps with you.

As I went through your pictures of the last year, the most drastic change came only a few weeks ago.  You got a haircut.  Gone are those long locks and gorgeous curls.  I was hesitant about cutting your hair because we all loved it.  But I love the new look, and you love it.  I only wish we could still do double french braids.   I miss the double french braids.  And pig tails.  But it’ll be a while before we’re able to do those again.  Why?  Well, by the time you are old enough to read this, I’m sure the story about your hair will be of legendary proportions.  I’ll admit that I did not initially find it amusing, but in retrospect…I can’t NOT laugh.  You and Carter were playing super hero.  You wrapped yourself up in the curtain in your room and he, the greatest hero of all, came to your rescue and yanked the terror-inducing curtain and a huge plug of hair from the center of your head.  You didn’t cry, you laughed.  I know it had to hurt, but the absurdity of the situation obviously struck your funny bone.  I’m giggling as I type, actually.  How in the world was my little Carter strong enough to pull out a clump of your hair???  Oh, well…what’s done is done.  And your haircut fits your personality.  I dare say there’s even a little more sass in your step these days, complements of the new do.

As I write this, I’m listening to you and Carter play.  Such active imaginations!  You love to play house.  You love to be a mommy-to your dolls and to your brothers!  Asa adores you, his “Mi-Mi”.  Carter calls you his best friend.  You are my sunshine, and Daddy’s little girl.  We all love you so much!  And you are so special.

For your birthday you had to choose: birthday party with your friends or horse riding lesson by yourself.  You chose the horse, and I’m so glad.  It was so much fun watching you enjoy that, even if I did step in horse poop with flip flops.

Happy birthday, my little sunshine!

Love,
Mommy

Dorky Dvořák Dancing

Sometimes we dance in our house.

And by we I mean me and the littles.

Often in pj’s or just underwear.

Cause that’s how we roll.

Sometimes it’s ABBA, sometimes it’s Wicked.

And sometimes, when we’re needing a good cool-down,
I put on my favorite song ever:  the 2nd movement of Dvořák’s New World Symphony.

Tonight for what I think is the first time ever, Marshall saw our dance session.
(To say he was amused was an understatement.)

We pretended to be walking through outer space.

Then we were floating down a river while holding hands.

I had three little hands holding tight to mine.

And my heart was full.

And I was happy.

It doesn’t get better than this.

**Side note: I’ve never heard this performed live.  I think this may force me to start a 40×40 list:
#1 Attend a live performance of Dvořák’s New World Symphony.

For Whom the (School)Bell Tolls

When we moved back to my hometown, I had a lot of idyllic visions of how things would be, much like my friend Kate.

Some things came true.
We take strolls around our neighborhood and nature walks or alphabet walks.
(Well, we do when it’s cooler outside.)
We swim and have lazy dinners with some of my oldest family friends.
We do fun stuff with friends, old and new.
We often have Sunday lunch with my parents.

So in a lot of ways, life here is idyllic.

But there are also things that aren’t exactly what I anticipated.
Carter’s school, for example.

He will be starting Kindergarten this year.
I don’t know who’s more excited: me or him!

He’ll be going to a *Brand*New*School*, which is awesome and beautiful and well-planned.
But I have to admit that when we picked our house, we assumed we’d be zoned for what was my old elementary school.
When I went to register him for school back in May, I went to my old school…the school I thought he’d be going to…
and I was floored by how many memories surfaced just by walking through the front door.

The time in Ms. Golson’s class when we donned black plastic trash bags, dressed up like California Raisins and did the dance.
The first day I wore glasses to school.
The time I was disappointed that one 5th grade class learned the word “antidisestablishmentarianism” and our class didn’t.
(I’ve always been a dork.)
The time we made paper with Ms. Rivers.
Sitting in my 1st grade class and watching the snow fall through those tiny little slits of window.
I even remember one day from Kindergarten…when Chan asked me to sit at his table.
I remember lunches and PTA meetings and talent shows in the lunchroom.

A few days ago, I had another reason to go up to my old school.
I asked if it was ok if I just walked around and looked, and the secretary said that was fine.
I walked to the play ground.
There was a lot of new equipment, but the swings were still there.
And I remembered kicking a boy because he tried to kiss me,
Being too much of a scared-y cat to jump of the swings while I was swinging,
Standing in the shade of the building with Ms. Blizzard and some of the students from her class.

I know it sounds a bit crazy,
but I thought it would be cool if my kids and I had memories from the same place, different times.
And I know it sounds crazy, but there are parts of me that wish we were zoned
for the old, slightly-run-down-but-obviously-loved school and not the *Big*Fancy*New school.

At the old school, there are lots of playscapes.
The new school has no playground at all(yet).
At the old school, I know the principal and a lot of the staff.
I’ve never met the principal at the new school, but I’ve heard that she’s really nice.
At the old school, I have lots of memories.
The new school has new memories to be made for the kids and me!

He is excited!
I am excited!

I’m happy about the teacher to whom he’s been assigned.
I’ve known her for years, and she’s super-duper sweet.
She taught him in Sunday School a few years back, so she knows what she’s getting into!

Chicago Skyline (aka I would really love your help before Friday at noon!)

A year ago today, I was dressed up and ready for my first big blogger event.

A year ago today I met Casey and Emily, and fell in love with them both immediately.

A year ago today I found out that Chicago is my new favorite city!

A year ago today I had no clue I would be atop the ferris wheel on the Navy Pier
taking one of my favorite pictures of all time.

I entered this photo into Aimee’s monthly photo contest and was chosen as a finalist!

There are a lot of other amazing photographs, and I’m glad that I’m a part of this group.

But if you could take a moment and click here and vote for me, I’d really appreciate it.
Voting ends Friday at noon!

You Capture {Black & White}

Lately I’ve been missing my mojo.
My blogging mojo.
My photography mojo.
My keeping up with everything mojo.

But you guys know how much I love black and white pictures.
So when I saw that You Capture was all about b&w, I couldn’t resist.

When I took Carter out to get all his school supplies we had to stop at the grocery store on the way home.
He insisted that we buy some roses for me!
I love that kid!
And it was just what I needed to lift my spirits.

Because this?  This is how I’ve felt all week long.

My kids swirling around me.
Complete chaos ruling the day.

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And what fun is taking black and whites without doing a quick selfie pic?

I love the light in my bathroom!!

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I know…

I know that it’s just the pregnancy hormones.
I know that it’s why I’m tired and grumpy and weepy.
(Oh, how I hate being weepy.)

I know that it’s what is causing the headaches.
I know that it’s what is making me feel like I can’t keep up.
I know that it’s the stupid friggin’ hormones that make me all dark and twisty.
I know it.

And yet?
I can’t do anything about it.
I can’t stop it.
I can’t fight it.

And I want to.

I want to for myself,
for my family,
for my kids.

They deserve better than this.
You deserve better than this.

No one deserves my sour attitude and cranky disposition.

When I get like this, I tend to shut down.
I shut out other people because I know how easy it is for me to snap mean, hurtful things.
Things that I don’t even mean.
Things that in some ways I regret.
But in some weird, crazy way…it’s satisfying.

And I absolutely hate when I feel that way, when I do that.

But really?  You want to know what the worst part is?
The trying to be bright and shiny.
The trying to smile and be happy.

I’m not new to this.
I know how to fight.
I know what to do.

But that doesn’t make it any easier.